Are Your Perceptions Sabotaging Your Life?

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Approximately 80% of U.S women have battled with their body image at some point in their life.

Beginning as early as 6 years old, girls are influenced by social factors that can contribute to body dissatisfaction. Our society is obsessed with beauty and youth, and it drives people to chase after a form of perfection that doesn’t exist.

So why are we so overly concerned and unhappy with our bodies?

It has a LOT to do with what we see in the media 24/7, but I’ll tell you one thing, for some, it has nothing to do with weight at all. About 70% of healthy weighted women still want to be thinner or change their physical appearance in some way. As women, we are constantly playing the comparison game. When will we be enough as we are?

I believe what’s driving this is what we associate with society’s standards of beauty. “If I looked like that I’d be happier and more successful. I’d have more friends, deeper love, and more fun and excitement.” Changing our appearance seems like the answer to everything. But that is what I like to call “the grass is greener syndrome”.

It becomes dangerous when our perceptions become our reality. Our mind starts to believe that present day life isn’t enough. And so it begins – the journey to a destination that can never be reached because we perceive things to be true when they aren’t. Beauty and other external factors don’t create happiness; our mindset does. We have to look inward and love and appreciate who we are and what we have right now in this moment. Without that ability to love unconditionally, we will never find satisfaction because our mind will always believe there’s room for improvement.

People come in all different shapes and sizes. As a society, we tend to define a “healthy body” in ways that don’t translate to all women. We all have different bone structures, muscle compositions, and our fat distribution varies, but if you eat mindfully and move your body regularly, chances are, you are at a natural and healthy body weight for you.

Aim for eating whole, unprocessed foods 80-90% of the time, and leave room for spontaneity, fun, and relaxation the other 10-20%. That 10-20% of wiggle room in your lifestyle is crucial to your emotional health. “Eating clean” all the time and worrying about food in relation to your body image can limit your social interactions and deprive you of important social and emotional needs. Don’t allow body pressures to get in the way of your joy, social experiences, and relationships. Let yourself live free of anyone else’s standards, and celebrate the body that only you have.

If your weight loss is associated with better health, more energy, a longer lifespan, and a better quality of life, absolutely make the lifestyle changes necessary to feel your best. But, do it for you, and know when enough is enough. Set a realistic goal and enjoy the ride to get there. And, do me a favor. Start loving your body now, not later.

If you are in a healthy weight range for your height, age, and gender, but are still trying to lose weight or change your body in some way, try to figure out what the underlying forces are. Are you attaching ideals to body image that don’t truly exist?

  • What motivates you to lose weight?
  • What will you gain from your body changes?
  • How will you feel when you get to your target weight/shape?
  • How will the quality of your life change?
  • Will your relationships change?
  • How are your current relationships?
  • What will remain the same?
  • Are you holding on to a body stigma from the past?
  • Do you love yourself today? Why/why not?

Consider these questions. Answering these honestly may lead you to realize that what you’re missing in life isn’t associated with your body at all. Perhaps all you really need is a good hug from someone you love, a night out with friends to laugh and let loose, space to unleash trapped creativity, or a spiritual practice, such as meditation to give you mental clarity. It’s incredible what a little love and connection can do for your soul.

As I mentioned before, weight loss is recommended for some individuals for medical reasons, so always listen to the guidance of your doctor. My main message that I hope you will consider is to define your ideal body on your own terms, live in alignment with what brings you joy, and show yourself some love.

With Love & Gratitude,

Brittany 
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What’s a Health Coach?

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A few days ago I shared that I am a Holistic Health Coach. But, what is a health coach exactly? That’s a great question, so today I am here to explain.

Health coaches work with clients to support their individual health goals. As your health coach, I would assess your overall wellbeing and together we would address the areas of your health that require attention.

Health coaching is a growing field in the wellness community. Most people have heard of nutritionists and dietitians, but health coaches are different. Although my main focus is nutrition, health coaches also focus on non-food forms of nourishment, including your career, relationships, physical activity, and spirituality. These elements play a key role in our health and wellbeing. They can impact our stress, weight, mood, and energy levels.

If you are seeking more balance on and off your food plate, please visit my website and book a free consultation appointment. I look forward to our sessions together.

With Love & Gratitude,

Brittany

Open for Business!

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Hello there, sweet friend! I have an announcement to make. I just completed my mid-certificate at IIN™, which means my (metaphorical) doors are officially open to start my health coaching practice.

I am going to be honest with you. The idea of making myself known is terrifying and the little self doubting mean girl in my head likes to chime in and try to discourage me, but because this is my passion, I am going to be brave. I will trump my feelings of fear with feelings of excitement (after all, we cannot feel both at once!), and I will continue to tell myself that any failure I encounter will be a time for growth and reflection. I truly believe I have the tools, the heart, and the devotion to help my future clients reach their individual health goals.

I want to tell you a little bit more about myself to help you better understand what led me down this path as a health coach. Anyone can go to school and learn health and diet theories, but for a person to truly help and understand another, I believe they have to have “gone through it” in some capacity. They have to have experienced low points to appreciate high points, they have to have empathy regarding what it feels like to struggle, and they have to understand the fear and anxiety of starting from the bottom.

Hi, my name is Brittany. I am a wife, a mother, a child of divorce, the daughter of an alcoholic, and a recovered anorexic. I have struggled with abandonment, judgement, approval, relationships, food sensitivities, and all aspects of self-love and care. Although I am a health coach, I will always be a work in progress. I have come to realize that you do not have to have it all figured out in order to help other people. I will never speak from a pedestal because I do not believe anyone has that right. It’s the people who can admit they are still learning that we can benefit from the most.

My main goal is to serve women and assist them in achieving their nutritional and overall wellness needs. Career women, domestic women, mothers, those that are new to healthy living, and also the current healthy goddesses out there. No matter where we fall on the spectrum, I believe there is always room to better ourselves. My goal is not to make anyone strive for perfection, but to create the most balance possible within your way of living, enhance your quality of life, and keep you hungry for learning and growing within yourself.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this introduction. I am looking forward to the journey ahead and eager to meet you and hear your story. If you would like to inquire about beginning a coaching program with me, please head over to my website and schedule your free 3o minute consultation. There’s no better moment than the present.

With Love & Gratitude,

Brittany

Finding Balance to Promote the Most Vitality

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I believe that life is meant to be a journey of growth and evolution for everyone who walks this earth. We are all students throughout the entire course of our lifetime, and even the greatest teachers are never done learning. We will never have all of the answers, but by seeking out truths within ourselves, and striving for balance in our lives, our time here in our physical bodies can be lived with the most vibrance possible.

I am currently a student at IIN (The Institute for Integrative Nutrition). I went back to school to become a health coach because deep in my soul I believe that helping others to achieve health and happiness is my calling. My passion and desire comes from wanting to achieve these things in my own life, and we teach what we’re meant to learn. Few people have a perfectly balanced life, but by being a guide to help others take a look at the big picture and uncover the origins of their symptoms, together we are getting closer to harmony.

At IIN, we are taught about The Circle of Life. This consists of 12 areas that effect your vitality. These areas include:

  1. joy
  2. spirituality
  3. creativity
  4. finances
  5. career
  6. education
  7. health
  8. physical activity
  9. home cooking
  10. home environment
  11. relationships
  12. social life

By looking closely at these aspects and rating them on a scale from unsatisfied to satisfied, you will be able to see where you need to focus a little more of your time and energy.

To live your best life, we must strive for balance within all of these areas, so I highly encourage everyone to check in with yourself often. It is important to make note of any symptoms you are currently feeling. After you’ve completed your scale, consider your symptoms and your areas of least satisfaction. Could they be related? Do you notice any patterns?

For example, a client of mine is often tired, has troubling focusing, has an irritable bowel, and frequent headaches. Looking at her circle of life diagram, I see she ranks joy, social life, relationships, and home environment the lowest. Is it possible that there is trouble within one or more of her relationships causing these symptoms? This exercise requires honesty with yourself. Listen to what your body is telling you. Sometimes we don’t notice our underlying causes until they’re written down and spelled out for us.

Once you’ve completed this exercise. take action on the areas that need to be addressed. Like anything, this will take time, dedication, and love for yourself. But remember, you are worth it. Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place.

Wishing you only love and happiness,

Brittany

The Mind Body Connection

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Self-worth, as defined in the English dictionary, is the sense of one’s own value, or worth as a person; self-esteem; self respect.

Recently, I have come to realize that I have relied on other people to determine my self-worth throughout my entire life. In order to feel confident, happy, and content, I have needed family, friends, and even strangers to affirm all of my accomplishments, big or small, and justify all of the things that do not go as planned. It has been my security blanket and protection from any form of discomfort.

I also have a history of people pleasing. I put the preferences of others ahead of my own and disregard my feelings entirely to avoid upsetting anyone else. Since my self-worth depends on everyone thinking highly of me, I avoid confrontation like the plague.

I never fully felt the effects of this until I became a mom. Suddenly, the attention shifted away from me and onto my children, and it also became harder and harder to please everyone since I was no longer the only person in the equation. I often felt alone, isolated, and that I had lost my identity. I slowly felt my anxiety increasing as time went on, and then I was introduced to the true meaning of depression.

This experience led me to discover that health is not only about the foods that we eat and whether or not we exercise. I eat a very nourishing diet and move my body every day, but while I was feeling mentally defeated, stressed out, and just sub par, it took a toll on my physical health as well.

As a person who suffers from food sensitivities, I noticed that when I was feeling my worst, my symptoms also worsened and new ones developed. My feelings on the inside were directly reflected on the outside. I was having break outs, digestive problems, facial flushing, fatigue, joint pain, weakness, and much more.

Depression effects many people and it can display itself in a variety of ways. Aside from extreme sadness and withdrawal, a person may also experience chronic pain, weight gain, a short temper, skin issues, a loss of focus, feelings of apathy, and may be more inclined to rely on drugs and alcohol.

If you are starting on a path to live a happy and healthier life, I encourage you to take a look at all factors that contribute to your well-being. This may include your job, your relationships, your sleep habits, and physical activity just to name a few. We need to treat our mind, body, and soul as one if we truly want to live abundantly healthful lives.