Are Your Perceptions Sabotaging Your Life?

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Approximately 80% of U.S women have battled with their body image at some point in their life.

Beginning as early as 6 years old, girls are influenced by social factors that can contribute to body dissatisfaction. Our society is obsessed with beauty and youth, and it drives people to chase after a form of perfection that doesn’t exist.

So why are we so overly concerned and unhappy with our bodies?

It has a LOT to do with what we see in the media 24/7, but I’ll tell you one thing, for some, it has nothing to do with weight at all. About 70% of healthy weighted women still want to be thinner or change their physical appearance in some way. As women, we are constantly playing the comparison game. When will we be enough as we are?

I believe what’s driving this is what we associate with society’s standards of beauty. “If I looked like that I’d be happier and more successful. I’d have more friends, deeper love, and more fun and excitement.” Changing our appearance seems like the answer to everything. But that is what I like to call “the grass is greener syndrome”.

It becomes dangerous when our perceptions become our reality. Our mind starts to believe that present day life isn’t enough. And so it begins – the journey to a destination that can never be reached because we perceive things to be true when they aren’t. Beauty and other external factors don’t create happiness; our mindset does. We have to look inward and love and appreciate who we are and what we have right now in this moment. Without that ability to love unconditionally, we will never find satisfaction because our mind will always believe there’s room for improvement.

People come in all different shapes and sizes. As a society, we tend to define a “healthy body” in ways that don’t translate to all women. We all have different bone structures, muscle compositions, and our fat distribution varies, but if you eat mindfully and move your body regularly, chances are, you are at a natural and healthy body weight for you.

Aim for eating whole, unprocessed foods 80-90% of the time, and leave room for spontaneity, fun, and relaxation the other 10-20%. That 10-20% of wiggle room in your lifestyle is crucial to your emotional health. “Eating clean” all the time and worrying about food in relation to your body image can limit your social interactions and deprive you of important social and emotional needs. Don’t allow body pressures to get in the way of your joy, social experiences, and relationships. Let yourself live free of anyone else’s standards, and celebrate the body that only you have.

If your weight loss is associated with better health, more energy, a longer lifespan, and a better quality of life, absolutely make the lifestyle changes necessary to feel your best. But, do it for you, and know when enough is enough. Set a realistic goal and enjoy the ride to get there. And, do me a favor. Start loving your body now, not later.

If you are in a healthy weight range for your height, age, and gender, but are still trying to lose weight or change your body in some way, try to figure out what the underlying forces are. Are you attaching ideals to body image that don’t truly exist?

  • What motivates you to lose weight?
  • What will you gain from your body changes?
  • How will you feel when you get to your target weight/shape?
  • How will the quality of your life change?
  • Will your relationships change?
  • How are your current relationships?
  • What will remain the same?
  • Are you holding on to a body stigma from the past?
  • Do you love yourself today? Why/why not?

Consider these questions. Answering these honestly may lead you to realize that what you’re missing in life isn’t associated with your body at all. Perhaps all you really need is a good hug from someone you love, a night out with friends to laugh and let loose, space to unleash trapped creativity, or a spiritual practice, such as meditation to give you mental clarity. It’s incredible what a little love and connection can do for your soul.

As I mentioned before, weight loss is recommended for some individuals for medical reasons, so always listen to the guidance of your doctor. My main message that I hope you will consider is to define your ideal body on your own terms, live in alignment with what brings you joy, and show yourself some love.

With Love & Gratitude,

Brittany 
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5 Steps To Beautiful, Glowing Skin!

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For years, I struggled with breakouts. It made me self conscious, lowered my self esteem, and drove me CRAZY.

In my twenties, I thought there must be a wash, cream, or toner that can solve my problems. I tried many of the popular (and expensive!!) facial care systems on the market, used creams prescribed by my dermatologist, and even tried organic washes and lotions, but nothing worked. Each product I tried promised great results, so what was I doing wrong?

To my amazement, it had very little to do with what was being applied externally, and everything to do with what was going on internally. It just so happened that throughout my skin issues, I was also dealing with a lot of belly issues, including bloat, stomach upset, and constipation/diarrhea. When I began to discover the cause of my digestive troubles, my skin began to improve dramatically as well.

Skin is the largest organ of the body. If our lifestyle impacts all of the internal organs in our body, it makes complete sense that the largest organ would also be effected. You know when people are sick and you can see it in there face? Our skin is a looking glass into what is happening inside. It is important to take note of when things occur to pinpoint the cause and find a solution.

After years of trial and error with food, monitoring my lifestyle, and observing my moods, thoughts, and feelings, I finally came to understand the triggers that were causing my skin reactions. I hope my experience can save you a lot of time, money, and wasted energy.

And now…

The 5 Steps to Beautiful Skin

1. Eat nourishing foods for your body

Why do I say your body? Well, that’s because each one of us is unique and require different forms of nourishment. What is your diet like? It is highly processed, high in fat free/low fat products, overloaded with added gluten, sugar, and/or dairy? While everybody is different, there are certain items that seem to be linked to skin issues for the masses. In order to figure out what your personal triggers are, clean up your diet by getting rid of anything processed and artificial, begin eating mostly plant based (meaning eat more foods from the earth than anything else), and monitor high allergen foods. This may take time, but I promise it’ll be worth it.

2. Drink plenty of water

Drinking adequate water is crucial for our vital organs to function. Water flushes out the toxins from our bodies, cleans out dirt and bacteria, and can help us shine from the inside out. It also helps moisturize and replenish the skin cells with essential nutrients. By adding more water to your diet, you will experience whole-body changes and many positive side effects that go far beyond your face.

3. Manage your stress

We are all susceptible to levels of stress, and the impacts it has on our bodies is astounding. Stress produces the hormone cortisol, which can cause the body to produce more oil, cause inflammation and flare ups, and interfere with the bacteria in the gut. All of these factors can lead to acne symptoms. It is important to find ways to combat stress, such as meditation, deep breathing, developing a routine, and scheduling more time for fun in your life. Let’s stop stressing and start living!

4. Get more sleep

It’s not called beauty sleep for nothing! You know that morning glow you have when you wake from a long and restful night? That is the result of an increase in blood flow to the skin while you are sleeping. As we sleep, functions like breathing slows and blood pressure drops, so the blood supply can work to repair the muscles and tissues. When good sleep isn’t happening, the benefits of overnight renewal can’t occur. Most adults should aim for about 7-8 hours each night. I know this can be challenging (I’m definitely talking to you moms out there!), but more is better than perfect. Aim for more than you are currently getting, maybe by going to bed an hour earlier each night, and you will feel the difference.

5. Moisturize

While the natural functions of the body take care of the skin wonderfully, moisturizers are a great add-on. They help treat and prevent dry skin, and act as a barrier between the skin and the environment. So many toxins, dirt, and bacteria fly on to our skin every day and it helps to have an extra layer of protection. I use coconut oil to moisturize, and often add a drop of essential oil (such as frankincense or lavender) for increased benefits.

Well, there ya have it!

I hope you’ve found this list to be helpful, and I hope you implement these key factors of healthy, glowing skin into your daily life. If you do, I would love to hear from you in the comments!

Thanks for reading. Have a great day!

 

With Love & Gratitude,

Brittany